One of the saddest things someone has ever said to me was this: “I do not want to change.” I was shocked. It was confronting because, for many of us, growth and transformation are considered self-evident goods. We speak about becoming better versions of ourselves, learning from our mistakes, and
Transformation and the Butterfly I remember a biology teacher who had butterflies displayed in glass encasements. I was mesmerised. He explained the stages of a butterfly’s life cycle, and one day I found a caterpillar in the school garden. I placed it in a cardboard box filled with leaves and
I believe that the word resilience can never be fully measured, captured, or domesticated. We all experience resilience differently. For some, the word evokes admiration and gratitude. For others—particularly those who are suffering or witnessing the suffering of someone they love—being told to “be resilient” can feel oppressive, judgmental, and
When AI Becomes the Therapist: What Are We Really Seeking? “I go to AI for counselling,” she told me, completely seriously. There was no irony in her voice, no hesitation. She explained that AI felt unbiased, non-judgmental—safe. It gave her answers that helped her make sense of her problems. What
Have you heard of the illusionary truth effect? It describes how our brains are wired to believe something we hear repeatedly without questioning whether it is factual. One of the most destructive myths of modern times is the statement: “Religion is the cause of all wars.” We hear it so
Turning Point: How Spiritual Emergencies Can Be Catalysts for Growth by Dr. Dom. A few years ago, a young couple went to their pastor to have their child baptized. The pastor asked them, “Take your child of sin out of this church.” The couple was distraught. They felt utterly dehumanized.
In life, we are faced with many emergencies. But what about spiritual emergencies? So, what is a spiritual emergency? A spiritual emergency is a crisis that affects one’s understanding of the self and view of the world, leading to personal transformation. The term ‘spiritual emergency’ was coined by Stanislav Grof,
I wish to speak to you about the meaning of being human, our fragilities, and how psychospiritual counselling combining, psychology and spirituality, helps us heal and flourish as humans. We all have our ideas of what it means to be human. We all grapple with our bodies and souls. Even,
Have you thought about why we celebrate special days? Hi, I am dr. dom. Today, I wish to share my thoughts about why I think we celebrate special days for individuals or causes. Yesterday we celebrated women’s day. And our year is dotted with days devoted to mothers, fathers, grandparents,
Sometimes nothing seems to go right for us. We are down and troubled. Our lives are dark. Our worries are huge. What is worse we do not know who to turn to! It’s not because we do not want help. No. It is because we are overwhelmed with pain. We